tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6361215320362852003.post7353186729476160849..comments2023-10-29T03:13:04.134-07:00Comments on The Fallopian Tube Monster: The Transformation of IntimacyLaurax Olsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04554078393996153127noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6361215320362852003.post-3164362797221187322008-04-21T08:35:00.000-07:002008-04-21T08:35:00.000-07:00I too was interested in Giddens' point on independ...I too was interested in Giddens' point on independence/dependence within a marriage in chapter 4. In today's society, it is more uncommon for females and males to transfer directly from living in their parent's home to being married and living with their spouse, though it still does happen. I wonder what Giddens would say on this particular "modern relationship" issue. I also was interested in your point about romantic comedy "chick flick" movies replacing romance novels. I agree that both the movies and books appeal to many women (and men) as an escape from reality. Giddens writes, "The individual sought in fantasy what was denied in the ordinary world" (44). To what extent these viewers/readers then hope/expect similar situations in their own lives may present a problem in many relationships. However, one cannot deny there is an audience for both this genre of both books and movies.Laura D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/14911705876135448454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6361215320362852003.post-91608113131552321852008-04-21T08:34:00.000-07:002008-04-21T08:34:00.000-07:00Laura,Thanks for an awesome summary of both text a...Laura,<BR/>Thanks for an awesome summary of both text and personal reflections. Although this book states a lot of general themes that as WS majors, most of us already know, I still think it's a very useful book. He did mention that he wants the book to be accessible to anyone who happens to pick it up. Like we've mentioned before in class, there are all types of books for all types of readers out there. I wish we could've started out with this book earlier in the course.the amateur feministhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14993154037663355568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6361215320362852003.post-54397766918555022262008-04-21T08:05:00.000-07:002008-04-21T08:05:00.000-07:00I was interested in many of the same aspects of th...I was interested in many of the same aspects of the text that you brought up in your post--eating disorders replacing hysteria, explanations of the history of different kinds of love, modern views about marriage/relationships in Ch. 4. As I read this chapter, I wondered how it fits in with Kipnis. I think that the idea that marriage will make you whole/autonomous/a real adult/somehow magically fulfilled is a real problem, and the stories in this chapter illustrate that. It seems that "confluent love" is similar to what Kipnis is advocating--a contingent love that is highly connected with mutual sexual pleasure. I was wondering how to categorize the kind of love that the teenage girls referenced at the beginning of the chapter were dealing with. I think that, if not then, certainly now, there's a discourse that combines ideas from romantic love with confluent love. Do others think these ideas can be combined? (there are obvious contradictions in ideas about commitment, but beyond that?) What are the problems and/or potentials from intermingling of romantic love and confluent love ideas?hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00093167292765041863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6361215320362852003.post-134389075519932792008-04-21T07:56:00.000-07:002008-04-21T07:56:00.000-07:00You touched on one of the parts of this reading th...You touched on one of the parts of this reading that intrigued me the most-- feeling marriage is a way to find true independence. I think that this is a huge problem in our society. We spend so much of our lives (I would even argue almost all of our lives) depending on other people or things to keep us entertained or feel comforted or, just NOT alone. We are constantly looking for new relationships (romantic or not), talking on cell phones, listening to music, etc. We are hardly okay with actually being truly ALONE. And maybe what I'm saying isn't about being autonomous in relationships...but I'm just bringing up the point that the problem is much bigger than independence within a relationship. It's maybe just about our daily, mundane habits that prove we really are dependent on a lot of things-- even though we pretend we're not.Kira Pricehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11114384281396052905noreply@blogger.com